2. Dos & Don’ts for First Conversations
You’ve matched, now what? The first few messages set the tone for everything that follows. Here’s how to keep your chats real, fun, and full of good energy on HumansHere.
Do: Start with Something Personal
Comment on a entry, a line in their bio, or a photo that caught your eye. It shows you actually read their profile, and that you’re curious about them, not just matching.
“That story you wrote about missing trains… I’ve done that too. Where were you headed?”
Do: Keep It Playful
A light joke, a random “what if” question, or a small story from your own life can make things flow easily. You don’t have to be quirky or witty, just genuine.
Do: Match Their Energy
Conversations feel best when they go both ways. If they’re open, warm, or funny, meet them there. That balance of curiosity and effort is what makes chats turn into connection.
Don’t: Overstep or Overshare
Skip anything that feels too personal or intrusive early on, things like exes, money, or physical appearance.
You can be flirty without being forward. Respect always reads well.
Green Flags in a Chat
They ask questions back.
The conversation feels easy, not forced.
You find yourself smiling while typing.
You both share small stories, not just small talk.
If it feels mutual, keep going. If it feels one-sided, it’s okay to slow down or stop.
When It’s Not Clicking
Not every chat will feel like a match, and that’s okay. You can End the Match anytime if the conversation isn’t your vibe. It’s better to move on kindly than to leave someone hanging.
Every chat won’t turn into a story, but the right ones will. Keep it kind, curious, and real. That’s where the magic usually begins.